Why Are Gay Men So Damn Needy?

I’m sure it’s happened to you before.   You get home after a nice date with a handsome guy, he looked just like his pics online, so that’s a plus right out of the gate.    Sex was pretty much a slam dunk so he’s definitely getting a second try and you’re actually looking forward to it.   You get the usual text message accompanied by some cute emoji…

tonight was really great, thanks for being so cool.”   

 You smile and drift off to sleep as you contemplate how dating really isn’t that bad after all.

The next morning you wake to the familiar routine of shutting off the alarm on your phone, oversleeping, and suddenly realizing you’re late for work.    As you rush to get yourself together and out the door, you notice you have a text message on your phone which must be from the office reminding you of a meeting you’re late for.  In what has become a very automatic set of movements for your fingers, you navigate immediately to your texts and retrieve the poorly timed piece of information…

“thinking of you.”

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Transactional Friendships

I was all psyched out the other day because I thought I invented a new term.    I think my partner Eric’s banking career had something to do with it as I’m constantly hearing expressions and other vocabulary related to finance.   I was going about my business when suddenly “transactional friendships” popped into my head along with the meaning.   Before running off to tell everyone about my cool new discovery and writing a book about the topic I decided to Google it.   Sure enough, the term and the meaning already exist.    I was pretty bummed out but I figured I could at least write a blog post about it.    A book deal would have to wait.

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